Reviews
Painful Enrichment
The parole
September 2012
Jacobs bases his therapy on three states of experience, which he calls inner décors:
the 'there and then, the 'here and now' and the 'there and now'. The first generation stays emotionally in the there and then, the place and the period of the violence.
“The post-war generation and partners often let themselves be sucked into that decor. Instead of inviting the affected loved one to talk about the experiences from the here and now…If it never happens due to psychotrauma,
otherwise will go between survivors and their intimate relatives, the violent oppressor has really won.”
Reformational Newspaper
February 2013
His book “Painful Enrichment. Mourning and reborn relationships in the shadow of
violence of war” is a valuable work that shows that suffering can sometimes – not always – be processed and turned for the better. The stories provide insight into the great questions that war trauma raises for people and their environment.
Entitlement (periodically from the Social Insurance Bank)
March 2013
In the shadows and confusion of violence that people inflict on each other, mutual relationships can become lopsided. When the going gets tough, we tend to avoid pain points. Nevertheless, it is good to confront, even if it takes a lot of courage.
Reviews
Fromtherenastynow
Checkpoint (Dutch Veteran Institute quarterly)
August 2018
The book by psychiatrist Fedia Jacobs offers a glimpse into the experiences of victims of violence and their loved ones. He also uses small Duplo figures that represent the interactions between the trauma and the present. This ultimately leads to understanding and empathy.
Newsletter Client Council GGZ Rivierduinen
September-October 2018
In the book, Jacobs explains how Playmobil-like figures can be used to visualize the situation in which the victims find themselves. By having the figures sit or lie down, turn their heads away or raise their arms, etc. and group them in different ways, a surprising multitude of emotions, relationships and situations can be depicted.
General Practitioner & Science
October 2018
Van Daar naar Nu is a very enlightening book about the way in which violence leaves deep traces in the victim's emotional state and the way in which this affects relationships with
can influence others. Emotions and behaviors that were functional at the time of the violence can persist long after the trauma has been experienced and thus affect relationships with others, such as partners or children, and prevent good contact with these loved ones.
System therapy (Dutch Association for Relationship and Family Therapy)
March 2019
The multiple short case studies force you to witness complex survival strategies of people during and after torture, abuse, rape, hostage-taking, incest or when people were forced to witness gross interpersonal violence. Does the victim live with the perpetrators of the past or with the relatives of today?
After all, the central trauma hypothesis is that it is precisely the inability to tell time and place apart that keeps the serious trauma symptoms going. The book enters an area of interest to family, relationship, and systems therapists: Trauma puts great strain on relationships. The client must decide to do something with the trauma-related complaints, go into trauma treatment and, with the help of conversations with the therapist and those close to him, clear up the confusion in time and place.
The environment (Newsletter Next Involved Council Arkin)
May 2019
He often hears from relatives that after treatment they can better understand what is going on, and what impact the trauma of their partner, child or family member has on their relationship. That space is created to live together more in the here and now together with someone who has been traumatized by very drastic events. Relatives are confronted with themes such as 'how do I set limits', 'how do I take good care of myself' and with questions of meaning. Fedia considers it important that relatives are aware of these themes and make choices in the way in which they fulfill their roles.
